I believe the secret to a happy life, is a simple one. so in this post and hopefully a few others, i'll be talking about that.
Life is very simple for those who wish it to be, but for some reason most people don't. i will talk about my perspective, perhaps i can convince some of you to look about life the same way i do, but be warned, I've been told i have a very queer mentality.
For me, reasons always come secondary to results, most of you will disagree with that but bear with me. let's say i kill a person purely by accident ( i turned on the light and he got electrocuted in his bath tub 3 floors down ) and another person murders him with intention. in my case, i will probably not get punished at all, but the murderer will probably suffer capital punishment. so that means because the "reason" i killed the man was an accident then i didn't get punished, that's good and well, but for that man's 4 year old daughter, he is dead, no matter the reason, no matter the justification, the consequences she will suffer are the same.
The "reason" only matters when you look at things from your perspective only, but if you count in other people's emotions, feelings and outlook on life, you will quickly find that the "reasoning" behind doing things will not be accepted by everyone the same way you accept it. hence, it's both; more considerate and simpler to just focus on the "results" of your actions, rather than the "reasoning" behind them.
I know a lot of you by now are thinking that this is too much thinking and toiling for things to be simple, and you're right, but this is just at the beginning, once you establish the concept, enacting it becomes as innate as blinking.
The second thing is pretty straight forward, and might seem slightly ridiculous, but to my astonishment, very few people -if indeed any at all- actually practice it.
I'm gonna tell you the second concept now, brace yourselves, this one is gonna be a shocker. the second concept is as follows: when something annoys you, say that it does. seems simple enough ? apparently not. either a lot of people are simply masochists and they like to suffer, so they don't speak out. or quite the opposite, a lot of people are so loving and caring towards others, that they would rather suffer, than profess their annoyance from someone's actions or behavior.
Here's another shocker for you; most people are in fact NOT oracles, they don't see the future, nor are they mind readers, don't expect others to know what you want to say without you actually saying it. if you have a problem with someone, tell them, fix it, and move on. don't linger on negative feelings, by time, bitterness and disdain towards that person will grow, and the problem that could have been solved in a 30 minutes talk, will end up dissolving a friendship.
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to be continued...
Life is very simple for those who wish it to be, but for some reason most people don't. i will talk about my perspective, perhaps i can convince some of you to look about life the same way i do, but be warned, I've been told i have a very queer mentality.
For me, reasons always come secondary to results, most of you will disagree with that but bear with me. let's say i kill a person purely by accident ( i turned on the light and he got electrocuted in his bath tub 3 floors down ) and another person murders him with intention. in my case, i will probably not get punished at all, but the murderer will probably suffer capital punishment. so that means because the "reason" i killed the man was an accident then i didn't get punished, that's good and well, but for that man's 4 year old daughter, he is dead, no matter the reason, no matter the justification, the consequences she will suffer are the same.
The "reason" only matters when you look at things from your perspective only, but if you count in other people's emotions, feelings and outlook on life, you will quickly find that the "reasoning" behind doing things will not be accepted by everyone the same way you accept it. hence, it's both; more considerate and simpler to just focus on the "results" of your actions, rather than the "reasoning" behind them.
I know a lot of you by now are thinking that this is too much thinking and toiling for things to be simple, and you're right, but this is just at the beginning, once you establish the concept, enacting it becomes as innate as blinking.
The second thing is pretty straight forward, and might seem slightly ridiculous, but to my astonishment, very few people -if indeed any at all- actually practice it.
I'm gonna tell you the second concept now, brace yourselves, this one is gonna be a shocker. the second concept is as follows: when something annoys you, say that it does. seems simple enough ? apparently not. either a lot of people are simply masochists and they like to suffer, so they don't speak out. or quite the opposite, a lot of people are so loving and caring towards others, that they would rather suffer, than profess their annoyance from someone's actions or behavior.
Here's another shocker for you; most people are in fact NOT oracles, they don't see the future, nor are they mind readers, don't expect others to know what you want to say without you actually saying it. if you have a problem with someone, tell them, fix it, and move on. don't linger on negative feelings, by time, bitterness and disdain towards that person will grow, and the problem that could have been solved in a 30 minutes talk, will end up dissolving a friendship.
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to be continued...
You always have a 2D image of things, neglecting the third dimension that's involved in every dealing between 2... that is God. If i killed my neighbor, his daughter is not alone... she's embraced by God either ways. You look at death as an epitome of destruction and of life as useless for simply having an end; but it doesn't it starts here to continue somewhere else... if you only believe.
ReplyDeleteHumans are not weak, not that weak like you think... nor are they that naive as you suppose... there's greatness in mankind... but it's all about the choice.